What if your relationship isn’t broken, just ready for its next stage of development?
For people who still love each other but don't know where the wanting went. (Stop wondering if it’s too late.)
Most couples eventually get to a point where intimacy (including sex) becomes problematic. One partner wants it more than the other. One partner wants to change it up, like, significantly. One partner gets busted breaking an agreement or unspoken expectation, which may or may not involve another person.
Trying to talk about it usually ends in shame, blame, and hurt feelings.
Before you know it, it’s been ten months (or two years, or fourteen) and you didn’t sign up for this roommate agreement, but you don’t know how to fix it.
Most people in this place assume they need therapy.
But if you're not in crisis (e.g., presence of addiction or abuse), if you're fundamentally healthy people who've hit a wall with desire differences, what you actually need to get unstuck is
clarity about how you got here
certainty where you want to go instead, and
confidence how to get there.
That’s the kind of coaching conversation I can help with.
Conflict → Understanding
Learn to see difference as information, not threats.
Distance → Desire
Rediscover what drew you together and what can draw you forward.
Performance → Presence
Stop managing the relationship and start inhabiting it.
A New Approach to Relationships
When you grow relational capacity (aka relational intelligence), conflict can become productive, desire differences can be negotiated, and intimacy becomes more resilient and alive.
When you stop trying to fix the relationship and start looking at what you bring to its dynamics, connection, desire, and trust can reorganize at a more authentically aligned level.
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Explore personality types and relational dynamics
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Develop and practice skills to hold complexity without collapsing
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Co-create authentic, aligned relationships - or know what you want to experience going forward
“I had so many a-ha moments. Our session was eye-opening, and I came out of it understanding more about our different ways in dealing with conflicts and receiving feedback.”
Gigi, INFP
Meet Your Coach
I met my husband in 2005; we got married in 2007, and we almost didn’t make it. Applying insights from our Personality Type differences gave us the right language and effective tools to better understand, appreciate, and grow with one another.
These days I help couples who are tired of coexisting find their way back to actually wanting each other, and showing up authentically. Whether we're exploring personality patterns, blocks to intimacy, or how desire wants to move through your body, I work at the intersection of typology, intimacy, and relational growth.
In short, my work is helping people become more honest, more spacious, and more alive in relationship to themselves and others.
I highly recommend working with Doris, as you may discover something about your partner that you would have never thought about before!”
Heejung, INFP
Not sure if coaching is right for you? The consult is just a conversation. No pressure, no pitch, just clarity on what you're dealing with and whether I can help.
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Frequently Asked Questions
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No. This is coaching grounded in psychological and developmental frameworks, focused on goals and growth rather than diagnosis or treatment.
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Not at all. This work is equally effective before things break down.
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That’s actually common, and workable. Motivation itself is part of the developmental process, and we can work with different levels of engagement.
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Yes. My practice welcomes folks from diverse relationship structures and across orientations. If you’d like, you can read my research paper on the stigma of non-monogamy here: https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s12119-023-10099-7