What if your relationship isn’t broken, just ready for its next stage of development?

Stop wondering if it’s too late.

Why are intimate relationships so hard?

Because we’ve been sold a story that the right partner will make us happy and complete us. So if we’re unhappy, we have to change our partner.

Maybe you’re raising a family and are feeling more and more overwhelmed with it all. Maybe you’re going through a dry spell and wonder how you turned into roommates. Maybe you’re still hurting about a betrayal that never really got fixed.

Romantic comedies, song lyrics, even action movies where the guy gets the girl don’t show the vulnerable conversations it takes to truly connect, or the awkward moments during sex when someone needs to take a break. So when real life doesn’t go smoothly and conflicts don’t get resolved within 30 minutes, we think there’s something wrong with us or the relationship.

Long-term intimacy isn’t something you find, it’s something you build.

Here’s how I see it: you are a whole, complex, ever-evolving person. And so is your partner.

A couple isn’t “two halves” waiting to click into place.

Here’s what I help my clients do:

Know yourself. Your wiring, your patterns, your deep-seated needs, your unconscious coping mechanisms, the scripts about love and sex you picked up before you were old enough to question them.

Own how you show up. Stand firm in your values and boundaries, act congruently, get securely attached to your Self. Whether you're currently sharing a bed with someone or not.

Have the conversation you've been avoiding. The one where you say the actual thing you want, out loud, and risk what happens next. Even if it’s hard for them to hear. Learn how to deal with their emotional reactions without getting swept up in them.

You don’t have to know how to do any of this yet, those are the capacities and skills we develop and practice in our coaching sessions.

You’ll walk away with clarity about your wants and needs, confidence in practicing new relational skills, and certainty about your boundaries moving forward.

Whether you’re currently partnered or wanting your next relationship to be different, the good news is relationships are systems. When one person starts doing this work, the system changes.

If not now, when?

I know how much it hurts to keep circling the same fight, the same silence, the same ache you can't quite name yet. And I understand that hurting isn't the same thing as being ready. So let me very gently ask, what would it cost you to keep doing the same thing for another two years, or five? What would become possible if you tried building these skills?

This work invites you to stop making someone else responsible for your happiness, and to start looking at what you’re bringing to the dynamic that is within your control to change. If that sounds better than having the same fight for another five years, let’s see if we’re a good fit:

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Conflict → Understanding

Learn to see difference as information, not threats.

Distance → Desire

Rediscover what drew you together and what can draw you forward.

Performance → Presence

Stop managing the relationship and start inhabiting it.

A New Approach to Relationships

When you grow relational capacity (aka relational intelligence), conflict can become productive, desire differences can be negotiated, and intimacy becomes more resilient and alive.

When you stop trying to fix the relationship and start looking at what you bring to its dynamics, connection, desire, and trust can reorganize at a more authentically aligned level.

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  • Explore personality types and relational dynamics

  • Develop and practice skills to hold complexity without collapsing

  • Co-create authentic, aligned relationships - or know what you want to experience going forward

“I had so many a-ha moments. Our session was eye-opening, and I came out of it understanding more about our different ways in dealing with conflicts and receiving feedback.”

Gigi, INFP

Meet Your Coach

A woman smiling at the camera with sunglasses resting on her head, standing outdoors near a beach, with cloudy sky and water in the background.

I met my husband in 2005; we got married in 2007, and we almost didn’t make it. Applying insights from our Personality Type differences gave us the right language and effective tools to better understand, appreciate, and grow with one another.

These days I help couples who are tired of coexisting find their way back to actually wanting each other, and showing up authentically. Whether we're exploring personality patterns, blocks to intimacy, or how desire wants to move through your body, I work at the intersection of typology, intimacy, and relational growth.

In short, my work is helping people become more honest, more spacious, and more alive in relationship to themselves and others.

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I highly recommend working with Doris, as you may discover something about your partner that you would have never thought about before!”

Heejung, INFP

Not sure if coaching is right for you? The consult is just a conversation. No pressure, no pitch, just clarity on what you're dealing with and whether I can help.

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Frequently Asked Questions

  • No. This is coaching grounded in psychological and developmental frameworks, focused on goals and growth rather than diagnosis or treatment.

  • Not at all. This work is equally effective before things break down.

  • That’s actually common, and workable. Motivation itself is part of the developmental process, and we can work with different levels of engagement.

  • Yes. My practice welcomes folks from diverse relationship structures and across orientations. If you’d like, you can read my research paper on the stigma of non-monogamy here: https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s12119-023-10099-7

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